Moments in Life

Moments in life.
I stood in line at the funeral home and couldn’t get over how scripted all this was. My mother had been to Holland this spring to see all her relatives. She had to make the hard choice of moving Dad to the nursing home for she just couldn’t do it any more. He is being well cared for. She had one on one with all her children as they took her to visit DAD. She had a surprise visit from her sister-in-law Agnes with her two girls just  weeks ago. She was there to celebrate the first 25 wedding of one of her children, Maria and Don’s. She saw all her extended family there again.  One of her coffee club members said that all the members were at the last meeting Mom was at two weeks ago. This club has been on the go for over 30 years. And finally she had all her children with her as she left this earthly life. This was no sudden loss, the powers to be had her touch all of us first before she left. We just didn’t see it. In a way maybe it was the way she lived that paved a way for her to leave us. Who knows. I just couldn’t stop reflecting on the events that happened to bring us to this moment in time. Awesome.
Listening to all the people Mom touched in her small way was wondrous. A few hundred people came to visit us and it was a celebration of her life.

It hits you hard when you hear from all the people, how she had touched them. How they will miss her smile and her big hugs. She loved each one of us, She had no favorites. So here I write with a huge gapping hole in me. A hole far bigger then I ever imagined. I have had many things happen to me in this life so far but this tops it all. This is so final. I have no regrets, no unresolved issues just a big hole. I think on reflection my mother was my secret hero. I would be lying if I said I never had issues with my mother. But somehow as I grew up I could see that it was just my little hurts that meant nothing in the whole of life. I could hold them dear to me and live in my own little hell or I could just throw them away. I threw the last one away about 18+ years ago and I am much better for it. It was only then that I could accept her for whom she was. I was not surprised at the comments from so many people. My mother was the genuine thing. To hear what all the grand children had to say was just awesome. My mother started to blossom as she became a grandmother. She had done things I never picked up on but they all felt special in her company. They all felt loved and accepted for who they are. With so many of them you might think it would get watered down but you would be wrong. In her own way we all got that treatment. It was just that we could see her in action as she interacted with our kids.

I could write much more but I keep getting this overwhelming thought going through my being. I don’t mean to sound like a wimp but my mother left some huge ideals in how she lived for me to live up to. Maybe that is why it was so hard to lose my hero. There is no excuse any more, I have to fill the void she left, be the love she was and just do it.
John

Gezina Verkley (1922-2006)

Grandma

We love her.

We miss her.

We were so blessed to have known her.

Gezina Verkley, Mother to 11, Grandmother to 23, and Great-Grandmother to 7, passed away on October 25th, 2006.

Hundreds of family members, friends, and acquaintances gathered over the weekend to share our sorrows and whisper our good-byes.

The collective thoughts of everyone who gathered to honour her life focused on a woman who touched the lives of so many with her smile, her laughter, her love, and her hugs.

She led the family by example, by loving her husband, family, and friends, guiding us all to become better people.

Grandma's Funeral

Beautiful flowers, colours, and even a couple of birds. Grandma always loved her birds.

Please use this Verkley blog to share your memories and photos.

I have resized and uploaded all of Bill Groot’s photos from Saturday into the /images/ folder that rotates on the right hand side of this blog. You can also view them by looking at https://verkley.com/images/ and looking at the photos that start with “BG06-10”.

Tom Verkley wrote a song and sang it at the funeral with his son Patrick’s accompaniment.  Here are the lyrics:

The Dash Between

I never thought that this would happen

The lord has called and I must go

I see you all gathered around me

To bid me fond farewell it set’s my heart aglow

I do love you so

I come to the end of a long lifetime

So long it’s hard to comprehend

Year after year there came the seasons

I’m only sorry that for me the seasons end

For you they go on and on

When I go I will leave someone

When I go all things will change

But when I go I again will become someone

That can run and laugh and sing and dance all day

In my life dear God the memories

All the birthday parties and weddings I’ve been to

Though I’ve not said it for sometime

I want to thank you all and say that I’ll miss you

My love goes on and on

It really is the dash between

When we are born and when we fall

And what we do in every single blessed day

Oh to know what I have known

Oh and to live it all again

Will be what I hope to do as I go on my way

When I go I will leave someone

When I go all things will change

But when I got I again will be someone

That can run and laugh and sing and dance all day

Written by; Tom Verkley

Grandma

Hello All,

 I think that everything went beautifully this past weekend.  It was by far one of the hardest things that we have been through but I know that Grandma was looking down helping us out were she could and she would have been impressed.  Thank you everyone for helping me get through my memories on Saturday it was hard but everyone helped and I hope that I covered everything that you wanted to say as well.  I will get it posted on here as well so you can read it anytime.  I know she is watching over us everyday now.  Love you all and see you at Grandpa’s party on the 12th.

 Tina

Lisa’s Update

Lisa & MontyHappy Thanksgiving to my Family!

I thought if I posted my update, it would inspire some of you to do the same 🙂

Jeff and I are still living in Sault Ste. Marie waiting for my house to sell so we can buy in Parry Sound and get settled. His job is being transferred there but they are being flexible on his start date so we can get my house sold before we move.

Jeff is away moose hunting this week, so I had a quiet long weekend alone with our dogs – just relaxing and working on websites. My puppy Monty will be one year old this week!

I hope someone has some photos from Don and Maria’s anniversary party and will post them to share with poor shmucks like me who couldn’t make it (we had an Open House here).

I know there are still lots of Verkley birthday’s I’m missing, so if you haven’t done so already, email me the birthdays of your family members so I can get them into the Upcoming Birthdays list.

See you at Christmas (speaking of which, any plans or dates yet?)